No relationship is perfect. Each one goes through different challenges. Sometimes, some couples may even find themselves in moments of disconnect. But that doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel! Perhaps you just need a chance to reconnect. It’s incredibly important to be able to address issues openly and honestly. Don’t be afraid to ask hard (but necessary and thoughtful) questions!
If you feel like you and your partner need a bit of help rekindling your love’s fire, here are five essential questions you need to ask each other to help trigger the spark and strengthen your bond.
1. “What are your current dreams and aspirations?”
People grow older (hopefully wiser), but people who are together may also grow apart. We change as we go through life! So it’s crucial that you and your partner check if your goals and dreams are still aligned. They don’t have to be the same — but you have to both know and agree if they’re things you’d like to pursue together or help support each other to achieve. This question allows you to navigate not just your individual growth but also how you can grow together.
2. “How can we better communicate with each other?”
It goes without saying (and as cliche as it sounds), communication is incredibly important in a relationship. But we can’t always expect to be at our best at all times, so there may be a communication rut from time to time. The key is ensuring it doesn’t fester. Ask each other how you may better convey your thoughts and feelings to each other. This question opens up the opportunity to do better and highlights the importance of active listening.
3. “What activities bring us joy as a couple?”
It’s easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of daily life. So many things can feel routine-like. Rediscovering shared interests and hobbies can help you reconnect. This question encourages you to reminisce about the activities that initially brought you together and explore new ones. By making time for shared experiences, you can create lasting memories and strengthen your emotional bond.
4. “How can we support each other during challenging times?”
You’re partners for a reason — that means being there for each other even, and most especially, during the hard times. Life’s challenges are inevitable, but having someone to hurdle through them can make a world of difference. This question helps you discuss your support systems and coping mechanisms. Knowing what your partner needs during a difficult time can help you better support them.
5. “What changes can we make to prioritize our relationship?”
It can happen to anyone. You’re so busy with everything else that’s going on in your life so your relationship suddenly falls down your priority list. So make sure to ask your partner this question. It encourages you both to reflect on where you’re placing the relationship and how you can make things better. Perhaps you need more quality time or establish new points of connection. You may find it beneficial to reevaluate your responsibilities. Whatever the reason may be, you both need to sit down, talk and decide to put your relationship more attention.
Asking these five essential questions can serve as a roadmap for couples looking to reconnect on a deeper level. We hope these can help reignite the spark and create a foundation for a lasting and fulfilling connection.
Jorj is an editor by profession, a b/vlogger on weekends, and a wife to Yop and mom to Cadence always. She's powered by curiosity and is in the process of becoming her best self.