It’s a question I ask myself a lot lately, partly because I don’t have an answer yet but also perhaps because I actually already know it but I’m too afraid to act. I’ve always been the type to want to believe in what I work for or at the very least be really interested in it. And I have followed that in all the jobs I’ve held.
With this year being the last in my 20s, though, there’s a nagging feeling that I need to see meaning in things. I don’t believe that everything happens for a reason, but I do think everything we do should have a reason.
What’s my why?
Storytelling (well, writing, really) is one of the few constant things in my life I hold dearly. I love it, to say the least. It’s not that I don’t tire of it because I do, and I’ve blabbered about that a lot of times already. But it’s something I see myself doing till I’m old. But it’s all me. The motivations are centered on my fulfillment, which I guess is not a bad thing. But these days I often hear Stacie Orrico in my head saying — nay, demanding — that there’s gotta be more to life.
It would be inaccurate (and hypocritical or proud) to say that I write to help other people because what I do is simply share what I know and what I’ve experienced. There is a tiny hope, of course, that some people would find the things I share helpful. But to say that my main motivation for doing what I do is to enrich others’ lives is false.
Finding your why (and mine)
So how do you find your why? According to a life coach named Bud Bilanich, it only takes three steps. Define what success means to you. Visualize yourself as successful. Establish what your values are.
After a few days of writing and abandoning and writing this again, I can say I’m one step closer to finding my why. I still need to fine-tune it, but I have a rough idea of what I want to do and where I want to be. It’s a bit too personal to share here but keeping this blog alive is definitely part of my main goal. I guess I’ll share when I get the courage.
Still, I’m curious to know. What’s your why? Have you find your why? What do you wake up for?
Jorj is an editor by profession, a b/vlogger on weekends, and a wife to Yop and mom to Cadence always. She's powered by curiosity and is in the process of becoming her best self.